Katherine, I think anyone who is an advocate of breastfeeding faces these dilemmas. I believe in taking the bull by the horns and not waiting for the topic to come up. If I were you, I might consider writing him a note of condolence on the passing of his wife, and then expressing your concern that he might possibly feel uncomfortable with you and that you don't want him to feel that because you support him 100%. If you've already expressed condolences, then make it a personal note welcoming him back and letting him know the same. Something to the effect of, "I am looking forward to seeing you again! I know that our original relationship was based on breastfeeding advocacy and studies, and I am concerned that you might possibly feel awkward--- please know that I support you in your fathering 100% and that my concern for you is for your relationships, and not feeding methods. I am so thankful for you that you have your daughter, and look forward to seeing you both." Anyway, you get the gist. I'm thinking that writing a note will lay the groundwork so that your first in-person meeting can happen without the baggage of worry on that issue. I also think that these things can be worded best in writing rather than in person and on the spot. Please let us know how this turns out; I grieve for him also to have such a devastating thing happen to his family. -Lisa Marasco