Jeanine: wonderful to hear from you...... Unfortunately mothers/parents are not interested in having a connected relationship with their child...i think that often lc's attempt to "sell" them on the benifits of breastfeeding for their infant for themselves, the economy, the ecology and the hope is that once they try and succeed they will begin to be converted to the form of parenting and attachment that we know about........... it is a relationship that needs to grow and be nurtured, it is not instantaneous .... Patricia