Cathy what do you give a mom about the hazards of mixing ABM and bf when she asks for ABM ? I FIRMLY believe in informed choice I only wish we'd ALWAYS ask the baby ! But as creative as I can be I'm afraid I will alienate the mom if I come-on like even a little ABM is "bad" (even though most of US know how it can screw up a new baby's foundation) I don't want to turn her off by my seeming rigid and FANATICAL "Oh it can't be THAT BAD ,can it now ?" Is there a simple, accurate statement or format that you distribute perhaps in the mode of "consent form". Does anyone out there have a way they say it ? perhaps C. Weissenger ? Marsha Walker ? without handing over a 2 or 3 page handout ? thanks for your input, Lost in Space (coast that is ) My husband is restricting my use of the computer !! Ruthy W bzm-bdy.