Jonathan: one also needs to consider that if dad does the night feed how will this effect mom and her milk supply? if she has to get up to pump to maintain supply or to keep from engorgement/mastitis...where is the gain.... marie thoughts are worth mulling over...the pendulum has swung from total non-invovement of dads to total involvment..including wearing that device to allow men to know what it "feels" like for the mother... maybe we need to find a place in between where mom is mom, dad is dad....our relationships are and should be different..not that there can not be overlapping and intertwining but... Patricia