Bravo, Debbie Shinskie, for posting about "ownership of the baby " issues. Right on! My universal "rules" for helping moms are: Rule #1. Feed the baby. Rule #2. The mother is right. Rule #3. It's her baby. Rule #4. Nobody knows everything. Rule #5. There's another way. Hope these help. Use 'em if you wish, give me credit if you can. Linda Smith, BSE, FACCE, IBCLC Private Practice, Dayton OH