Fionna, have her try the nipple shield. I have had 2 moms this month with exactly the same problem. Baby gapes open wide sucks a few times then looses grasp and eventually gets frettful and stops trying at all. As much as I used to hate nipple shields they sometimes work in theese situations. In both cases this month when we put on the nipple shield the babies opened wide and then stayed on!! Then the babes sucked and swallowed and relaxed into a blissfull sleep. I only use it as a last resort after all positioning and other strategies are used. Both mothers were so relieved and glad to see there babies have a good feed at the breast that they didnt mind the minor trouble of the shield. In both cases the moms stopped using the bottle because there was no need for supplements, babies were feeding well enough at breast. The first mom weaned from the shield in just a few days, it seemed the baby just needed to learn that food and contentment come from the breast not the bottle.(he was in NICU for 1 week and had only bottles.) 2nd mom I havent heard back from but will re check on monday I will Keep you posted. I am beginning to think that in some cases Nipple shield can help us "cure" Nipple confusion. any comments welcomed here are the instructions I give nipple shield moms. 1. Offer breast without shield first 2. If no latch then use shield 3. after baby relaxes into the feed but is still sucking, attempt to remove the shield. 4. weekly weight checks while shield is in use 5. Pump after feeds as many time a day as possible to overstimulate supply just in case shield does affect this. Hope this helps. Jessica Donahue R.N. I.B.C.L.C.