Just wanted to clarify-although I did miscarry twice while breastfeeding a 20-month old--I did continue to breastfeed for a long time, and never regretted breastfeeding them. The first time, I thought it was my fault; the second time, I knew it wasn't. Both were very confusing times for me, though, because not everyone validated the pregnancy. I had a hard time conceiving our first child; so the miscarriages were particularly upsetting to me. In fact, my "baby" is now almost 10; it hadn't been planned that way, but I never did get pregnant again after his birth, not even to miscarry! I nursed him the longest, past 2 1/2 years. Because of my difficulty conceiving, I had plenty of pressure to wean. The best part of weaning the "baby" was that even after he had stopped nursing, he would tell me, "Mommy I NEED you", and hold up his arms to be held. He still needed cuddling and knew when to ask for it. I don't think I would have remembered to pick him up for cuddling without that. Pearl Shifer, M.Ed., IBCLC Breastfeeding fanatic [log in to unmask]