>I read thru the comments and was appalled at how LLLLeaders come >across. Scarey, really. I don't know or have ever known about any >Leaders like that. Is it the mom's emotional state when BF fails >and she has to blame someone? So sad. I have personally walked >into kitchens and made bottles for babies who need to be fed NOW. >Maybe we need to spread the message about 1. Feed the baby, 2. >Preserve the milk supply, 3. Get help more broadly thru LLL. Pat >(who has been a leader longer than most of you have been on earth >:-) 1967! I don't get it either. I have known many LLL people this side of the Atlantic and I could never imagine them being cruel and insensitive to mothers. I am also someone who handles complaints from consumers about my own organisation, and I have done for years. Honestly, I don't recall any about a breastfeeding counsellor being unkind or judgemental or ignoring a starving baby (the complaints are more about us being 'breastfeeding counsellors' and therefore making women who don't bf feel guilty, or for not demo-ing ff in a class and therefore making women who don't bf feel guilty.....I know, I know......). The one sole complaint that came anywhere near this was someone who wrote a long email castigating a bfc who curtailed the phone call abruptly - on investigation, this bfc had received a text message from her young teen daughter who was in difficulties somewhere and needed urgent help, but the bfc had still taken the time to give the caller an alternate source of help. But I see comments on line or in newspapers accusing us of personally criticising a woman for using formula, or being horrible to someone who has asked us for support, and while I suppose any system can have its glitches over the 40-plus years we have been in existance and the thousands upon thousands upon thousands of encounters we have had, I *know* this must be rare. Yes, I think we need broad shoulders. Women do blame us when we cannot fix things. Heather Welford Neil NCT bfc, tutor, UK -- http://www.heatherwelford.co.uk http://heatherwelford.posterous.com *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome