I think what we're all saying is that while breastfeeding doesn't *cause* trouble with family dynamics, it magnifies whatever is already happening there, kind of like parenting in general does. Having a baby or nursing that baby won't save a marriage that is in distress, but where the parents are already mature, giving people, attached parenting can deepen that relationship. A few months ago i worked with a family that was really a triad. It was so wonderful to see! It wasn't motherbaby with dad looking on, or even motherbaby with dad trying very hard to be helpful. Mom and Dad were already a unit, and they parented together, with the knowledge that each of them have separate strengths. And this was a young couple in their 20s. I bet they will still be married 50 years from now, because they have a skill set that many older couples still don't have. Lynn LLL MO USA *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome