Hi Nikki, INDEED! What are we doing to ourselves. We are so "out of touch" literally with ourselves and those around us. Computers are great, I rely on them heavily and experience withdrawal to some degree in a hotel without one BUT personal relationships are SO MUCH more important to feel whole and connected. How are our poor babies to connect when they have no model for it. Did it all begin with those darn infant carseat/carriers? I had a mom come in to the WIC program this week. I saw her when her baby was 1week old, she brought the baby into my office in a carrier. Mom was/is only partitially bfing...another story..but I expressed my opinion of the carrier (ie:flat head syndrome etc.) I impressed on her how important touch was and that babies that are breastfed get lots of touch and to make sure that if she was bottlefeeding to do it in a way similar to breastfeeding as far as touching goes. She came in this week,baby is 2mo old, was throwing up on formula so mom is breastfeeding/pump feeding more than she originally planned, also she said "you noticed I carried the baby in!". She is very proud of the attention/touching that she does with the baby. It was so rewarding to see her not just holding the baby but caressing it as well. She may not be exclusively breastfeeding but boy are they connected. I think that's very important and she has reason to be proud! Made my day. Two staff from my WIC program were in your class last week. I'm so glad they got to "meet" you and learn from your teachings. Should make my life a little easier at work. I told them I was glad they got to hear it from someone other than myself for a change. :-) Ilene Fabisch, IBCLC/RLC Clinical Director MMBNE WIC Bfing Coordinator On May 3, 2009, at 9:22 AM, LACTNET automatic digest system wrote: Date: Sun, 3 May 2009 06:23:43 -0400 From: Nikki Lee <[log in to unmask]> Subject: personal pondering about mothering the mother Dear Friends: I was teaching last week in Lewiston, Maine. (One of Maine's famous culinary treats is lobster, and I had the best lobster of my life there: sweet, succulent and oh so good!) What are we doing to ourselves? warmly, Nikki Lee RN, BSN, MS, IBCLC, CCE, CIMI craniosacral therapy practitioner www.breastfeedingalwaysbest.com www.myspace.com/adonicalee *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome