Winnie Mading's subscription is hiccuping so I am posting this on her behalf. It refers back to the Supernanny thread. Wouldn't that make a welcome change from the credentials discussion? Winnie ([log in to unmask]) writes: I, too was appalled with the approach that praised the mother for becoming "detached" from her 14 month old by ignoring the crying when she forced weaning. However, I did agree with one part of the Nanny's observation. The mother appeared to be nursing the toddler instead of other types of interaction. I did not see her making any effort to play with the child or even suggest other ways the two of them could interact. (Of course, we did not see them 24/7 so what was shown may well have been edited to reinforce the view the nanny wanted to enforce.) It looked like the only way the toddler could have time with mommy was to nurse. I do not have a problem with giving a mom suggestions to help a toddler gradually wean without making it a "cold turkey" approach. When a mom asks about weaning, in addition to assuring her there is nothing wrong with an "older" child nursing, I always talk about "other mother time"! . When a mom has made the decision to wean, whether I agree feel it is the decision I would have made or not, she needs to know that the baby/child will fear loss of not just the nursing buther connection with mom. Moms should expect to spend MORE time doing other things with the toddler while the adjustment is being made, not cut off all time with mom. At least the nanny did have mom cuddle without nursing, but where was the encouragement to involve the 14 month-old in other activities with mom? I guess I was expecting a far more negative attitude toward toddler nursing that what I saw. (I normally do not watch the show, but did this time after someone gave a heads up on LN.) The nanny did say it was an individual choice how long to breastfeed even though her personal opinion about it was apparant. She did acknowledge that it was a loss for the mom, but little sympathy for the loss the child was experiencing. The child seemed to be viewed as a manipulator that had to be controlled rather than a person with real needs. Winnie *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html Mail all commands to [log in to unmask] To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or [log in to unmask]) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet or ([log in to unmask]) To reach list owners: [log in to unmask]