On May 10, 2006, at 3:38 PM, LACTNET automatic digest system wrote: > Why is it so many moms "can't get that close" to their babies? I can't speak for other cultures, but Robin Lim, a very experienced midwife internationally, points out that in the USA, "life as we know it" ends when a baby is born, and people tell pregnant couples they had better do whatever they have been waiting to do (travel, etc.)or they will have to wait years. The baby is interfering temporarily with "real life." In contrast, in Bali, life isn't really normal until the couple *has* a baby, and the culture expects and supports the falling in love. My dh had heard horrible things from several guys, and Robin straightened him out for me :) Lynn *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html