> > ><<But it made me think of a lot of our attitudes about baby humans. = >*We* feel a need to bathe, so *they* must need baths. *We* eat 3 meals = >a day, so *they* ought to be eating big meals at long intervals also. = >*We* need more than just milk, so obviously *they* do too. *We* need = >water in hot weather so surely *they* do. *We* don't need to be held = >all the time; why should *they*? *We* self-soothe, why can't *they*? I = >guess it shouldn't surprise me that Ezzo makes so much sense to so many.>> > True, in part. However, I do eat more than three times a day (that's why Linda Smith's game is so obvious for me, as a person who has a miserable time finding a 'clean mouth' space to take homeopathic remedies), especially when you count cups of tea. And I don't self-soothe as well as I co-soothe -- nor do I prefer solitary sleep to co-sleeping. :-) I think many of a baby's needs are basic human needs that adults have learned to survive without. People have forgotten what it's like to thrive. Perhaps that's why we're defensive; we hate to admit our inter / dependence. Ezzo buys into those fears by suggesting we can control our lives and even those of others. If we can, nothing bad will happen to us and we won't need other people so much. Separating people from each others, pitting one family member's needs against another's (who is in charge: baby or mom?), moves us exactly in the wrong direction, away from empathy. Maybe the world would be saner if we all were held as much as we needed to be. Jo-Anne *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html