The situation with a mother of twins who has no milk supply and is upset that her babies will not suckle at the breast, puzzles me. She does not want the breast to be associated with food. I am not aware of any babies who suckle just for the sake of having a breast in their mouth, and get all their food somewhere else, particularly not babies who've never been satiated at the breast. What would motivate a baby to take a dry breast, regularly? It seems like it could be uncomfortable to suckle at, even. In essence, this mother has weaned, in that the babies are getting fed elsewhere. Nobody needs to tell her to do it; it's a done deed. It sounds like it is time to explore her thoughts and feelings about what breastfeeding is, and what a baby's needs are, so she can deal with the reality of her situation. Perhaps she will reconsider her decision on supplementing at the breast. I can certainly acknowledge her sadness at the loss of a BF relationship, as can any of us. But her infant daughter can't be expected to remedy it on command - what is in it for the baby? Maybe the baby wants closeness without a breast in her mouth, who knows? Rachel Myr Kristiansand, Norway *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html