Hi all, I agree with your post, Melissa. Other things that may be helpful are bible verses about kindness and patience to children, God tenderly caring for his children and holding them to his bosom. I have asked a few parents if they enjoy being forced to do things, and none of us do, I sure don't. Logical conclusion is that babies don't like being forced into things either, such as a schedule. I ask mothers how they would feel if the dietary people walked in to pick up their meal tray 'It's been 15 minutes, ma'am, you're done.' And the woman may say, 'But I got a phone call, I'm not done yet.' Usually this is enough said. I have found it helpful to explain the humanity and personhood of the baby with this story: "I'm not sure what I thought my first baby was, a pet or a task to take care of. But some friends were over and spoke of Andrew's blankets and Andrew's bottles like he was a real person who owned things. Light bulb moment for me! He IS a real person with his own feelings and thoughts and needs." (We adopted him and I bottle fed. At 12 mos old I finally told him to hold his own bottle. I should have put him on a cup but didn't know better at the time.) Susan in Minn. USA rn ibclc The information transmitted in this e-mail is intended only for the person or entity to which it is addressed and may contain confidential and/or privileged material, including “protected health information.” If you are not the intended recipient, you are hereby notified that any review, retransmission, dissemination, distribution, or copying of this message is strictly prohibited. If you have received this communication in error, please destroy and delete this message from any computer and contact us immediately by return e-mail. <<<<P.H.I.>>>> *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html