It might help the father to read "Beauty and the Breast" to help him understand that his feelings about breasts are the result of growing up in American culture where the breasts are overly sexualized, and that that these are learned attitudes and behaviors, not biological instincts that his son shares. Having grown up as a long-time nurser, his son views breasts very differently than he does. It would seem reasonable to me to have the parents jointly ask the boy to try to curb this behavior, in public, and when the dad is around, and to try to come up with something to replace it. People do have to live in families and accommodate to others needs and desires. Just as in some families some members insist on privacy while in the bathroom, and in other families some members are horrified by children burping or passing gas, while in other families, or with certain family members, one just tried to control oneself, at least while that person was around. Or if you just had to pass gas, you went in the other room while grandma was visiting, but if she wasn't, you knew it was fine to do it in front of everyone else. Or the way some family members might insist on being called "ma'am" or "sir" -- so you teach your kids to always say "Yes Ma'am" to Aunt Betty, and "Yes Sir" to Uncle George. Kids can learn at a very young age to be respectful of other people's feelings. So while dad can certainly work on understanding his own reactions to his son's touching of the wife/mother's breasts, the son can also be working on modifying his behavior under certain circumstances. At least, that is how it seems to me . . . Kathy Dettwyler _________________________________________________________________ Get business advice and resources to improve your work life, from bCentral. http://special.msn.com/bcentral/loudclear.armx *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html