Priscilla, I also wanted to say that you did not do anything to hurt this lady, and do not need to feel badly about it. I am sure it was just the situation, and that the discussion of breastfeeding would have bothered her, no matter who was presenting it or what words were used. She may have been quite unprepared for her strong reaction to it, too, which would increase her need to leave the spot, rather than risk losing composure in front of everyone. Having never had the opportunity to stay pregnant or give birth to a baby, and having my husband decide to specialize in OB/GYN, I am very well acquainted with this kind of thing. I have done a great deal of avoiding the most painful topics. I suspect that this mom will work through her feelings on this, and perhaps even become especially helpful to the nursing mothers she has the opportunity to work with, because of her personal experience. If you have a chance to see her again, you might even want to mention to her that relactation is possible. Perhaps she would like to visit ABRW, where she could get information and support for getting her baby to take the breast, and getting a milk supply rebuilt. For some reason, even many people who will tell an adoptive mom that she can induce lactation, will not think to mention the possibility of relactation to someone who has experienced an unsuccessful attmempt to nurse a bio baby. www.fourfriends.com.abrw Best Wishes, Darillyn _________________________________________________________________ Is your computer infected with a virus? Find out with a FREE computer virus scan from McAfee. Take the FreeScan now! http://clinic.mcafee.com/clinic/ibuy/campaign.asp?cid=3963 *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html