I have dealt with this more than once. It is tricky - trying to choose your words carefully when discussing prolactin etc. But praise her for the good things, tell her you'll help her when the time comes to wean (relinquish) and be there for her. Hope that someone at home will be supportive as well. Tell her that her baby will know it was loved and this will build a bond forever. I've been reading a bit lately on the topic of grief and grieving and just listening is the MOST important thing you will ever do. Don't pretend that this is something to get over and move on. Oh gosh, I'm being preachy - sorry. Be strong and be there. Mary Kay Smith, RN, IBCLC *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html