"Many women I know would be offended by hearing their child referred to as being a "Down's kid" or "Marfan's child." How does it sound if we say "a cancer woman," for example? Such wordings seem to be experienced as putting undue emphasis on the disorder and inadequate emphasis on the person. The child is a child first. Having a disorder is one--and only one--aspect of that child's being. Of course, different mothers are offended by different things. However, the odds of offending in such circumstances seem less when using such phrases as "a child with Marfan's syndrome," as was done in the first part of the above sentence." Cindy, I would NEVER use such terminology in speaking with a mom, I would use the "a child with Marfan's" as I did earlier in the post. However, I was trying to take shortcuts in my post to professionals ( I had only a few minutes before I had to leave) so I used 2 words instead of 5. Sorry if this was offensive. It certainly wasn't my intent. Winnie *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html