<this topic rests hard in my heart. . . . I will never forget that night...and I will never forget the words the FP could have said and never did..... I know guilt.........> Thank you for sharing your feelings so openly and eloquently, Patricia. This has given me much food for thought, for in my volunteer work as a WIC LC, I often encounter situations where I wonder if the mother is trying to deny regret and force herself to accept what she (and her myth-informed significant others) thinks is inevitable . . . . or is she just plain relieved it's all over so she can get on with more perceived control in her life with artificial feeding? I always hesitate just how to phrase my comments. I think I need to make myself a little "script" list of questions, starting with <"would you still like to breastfeed?"> Jean ************ K. Jean Cotterman RNC, IBCLC Dayton, Ohio USA *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html