Sounds to me like she's meeting the needs of the youngest, most vulnerable member of the family quite competently. Maybe that's all she can do. Maybe that's all she chooses to do. That's a LOT, either way. IMHO, Instead of a bunch of rules on how to mother, she probably needs some immediate concrete practical help, like someone who can cook, clean, and watch the other children. Linda J. Smith, BSE, FACCE, IBCLC Bright Future Lactation Resource Centre www.bflrc.com 6540 Cedarview Ct., Dayton, OH 45459-1214 USA (937) 438-9458 email [log in to unmask] *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html