Just to add that we (NCT) visit mothers to (or invite them to visit us), but that is completely up to the individual counsellor....most of us *always* do our best to see a mother, fitting it in round all the other stuff of our working and domestic ives. Sometimes, mothers are very demanding (most aren't - most are just lovely!). But every bfc I know has tales of being put under great pressure or even harsh criticism from mothers. Sometimes, mothers call late at night and more or less expect a visit (usually, they don't know we are volunteers, or they are so distressed they don't think about it). Most of us would not comply (I would never - in a true emergency there is always someone whose paid job it is to cope, and when I get a late night call, I tell the mother her options for this. I don't feel bad about doing this at all.) Many bfcs - myself included - get the 'train wreck' situations. A mother may be referred to us (or may refer herself) when several other people (friends, family, professionals) has had a go at truly messing up her bf. I do think, though, that it behoves volunteer organisations to make sure of some sort of quality control, continued training, and supervision. All the national bf organisations I know of working in the UK (inc. LLL) take this very seriously. Heather Welford Neil NCT bfc Newcastle upon Tyne UK *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html