I've been thinking about what we communicate when we select nomenclature ("SIN" for formula) that not-so-subtly seeks to shame people for their choices. It seems to be human nature that people resist covert efforts to control their behavior, even if it is for their own good. Most people are plenty smart enough to be aware of you doing it, and it creates RESENTMENT (not guilt or desire to reform). Once resentment at feeling manipulated becomes part of the interpersonal dynamic, your chances for real communication are crippled. I think we need to be careful that we present ourselves as a profession that is honest enough to speak straightforwardly to mothers about changing their behavior rather than sneaking up on them and clobbering them with judgements and condemnations. Feeding choice honestly may never have been closely examined before, and there may be hidden issues influencing their choices that we cannot know. Courtesy is the foundation of communication. Barbara Wilson-Clay BSEd, IBCLC Austin Lactation Associates http://www.lactnews.com *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html