IMNSHO, I am very troubled by this advice on babies crying. I truly believe that infants are not capable of comforting themselves when they are truly upset. Infants learn to adjust to problems by being held and comforted. Not by being left alone. In fact, how many of us can comfort ourselves when we are upset? We usually talk to a friend, spouse or co-worker. We might have a good cry and a cup of tea. Babies seek those they are connected to to serve in this capacity. I've always thought that sometimes you just need a good cry. However, when this becomes too much for a parent and that parent feels she/he is going to go over the edge, yes, it's ok to put the baby down in a safe place and go in another room (bathroom works well) and turn on the water/stereo, etc. so you can't hear it. Yes, babies cry because they are hungry, cold, hot, tired, have a dirty diaper, etc. They also cry because, maybe, they are having growing pains, maybe they feel a little out of sorts, they just need closeness. Bottom line, this is bad advice and only serves to remove parents from their children and cause undue stress in the infant. Johanna Berger, LSW Breastfeeding Counselor (and very opinionated tonight) Bala Cynwyd, PA ________________________________________________________________ YOU'RE PAYING TOO MUCH FOR THE INTERNET! Juno now offers FREE Internet Access! Try it today - there's no risk! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html