Kathy, this very young mom needs parenting herself. Is there a really good foster home she and her baby could go to? BF is not the problem here. Parenting skills are. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for a 14 y.o. to be parenting. She probably doesn't have the skills or maturity to handle a toddler. Then again, many of us have very trying days with toddlers, so why should we expect any more from her. Yes, she should be making her child stay in the car seat even if she cries. No, she shouldn't be spanking the child for wanting to bf. And, yes, she should be receiving tons of praise for bf this long. Most moms don't even get to 16 mos.!!!!!! Mom and baby need to be someplace where they can both be parented and someone can show mom how to parent. Yes, there are foster families like this and child protective services needs to help out. Johanna Berger, LSW Breastfeeding Counselor Bala Cynwyd, PA ________________________________________________________________ YOU'RE PAYING TOO MUCH FOR THE INTERNET! Juno now offers FREE Internet Access! Try it today - there's no risk! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html