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Sanna-Mari Tonteri <[log in to unmask]>
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Mon, 21 May 2001 12:14:54 +0300
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Katherine D wrote about a 6 yo girl who slept with her parents, none
of them wearing clothes, and her father gave her a backrub at nights.
The child was taken away from her parents.

What do you ladies think, this could be a cultural issue, couldn't it.

I come from a country where 'every' family has its own sauna, people
have saunas both at their homes and summer cottages. We are used to
going to sauna naked, with our moms, dads, siblings, and we even
invite our guests to come to sauna with us, naked of course. Women,
men and children all happily together. It is a part of our culture.

Sleeping together naked is not unheard of. We do it, many families do
it, not all, but many.

From Katherine D's example I understand there may have been an
underlying fear of possible insest, and there seemed to be other
issues in that family as well, but otherwise, personally, I see
nothing 'weird' in a 6 yo girl sleeping naked with her naked parents,
not even with a parent rubbing a child's back. Of course a situation
like that might, in some cases, be on the weird side, but normally, I
wouldn't be the least surprised if someone told this is what happens
in their family.

"A mother breastfeeding her walking male child is a pervert", and
"parents sleeping together naked with their female child cannot be
normal". Or am I mistaken? Why are we so aftraid of touching other
people, our own family, or are we afraid of ourselves?

Has Rachel M anything in mind...?

:-)
Sanna-Mari, mom to Rasmus 27 mo
Finland, Scandinavia

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