Diane wrote:  "I have a private theory that "sparklers" - those babies who
both give
off and require huge amounts of energy - end up smart, precisely
because of their problems.  ...  And I suspect the parents reap the benefits
in the years to come, in the form of an unusually bright, creative child."

Cool.  By definition I have three "sparklers" now ages 8, 5, and 2.  They
have never been
placid.  I have always suspected the same about them, and didn't look for
ways to
get them away from me when they were so needy.

I have always counseled mothers to invest the time and
value their children for who they are instead of who they expected them to
be.
Anecdotally, I feel these mothers, once they tune into their children,
derive great
fulfillment from knowing their kids well.

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