Jennifer writes:

<< I have also been a Leader for over 10 years. I find fewer and fewer
mothers in my community interested in LLL than ever. They want to pay the LC
to come in and fix the problem. They often do not view bf as a part of
mothering and find this concept difficult to grasp. Bf'ing has become more
and more something to manage--more medicalized and less organic. >>

Hmm.  I know that in my children's school, if a child was bored by, say,
math, we wouldn't say, "Gosh, that child has such a bad attitude to this
important subject."   We'd say, "Well, we seem to be teaching math in a way
that is completely failing to engage this child."    Sometimes that's OK on
balance -- we might decide that the way we're teaching engages the most
learners, and no one teacher can do everything after all.    But insofar as
our goal was to get across a point to that learner, we'd see her
disengagement as a failure of pedagogy, not a failure in the child's values
or personality.

I love bf.   I find it important and delightful, both.    But I am at best a
distant friend to  my local LLL group, and the mothers who come to me ASKING
for prenatal and postnatal bf help have no interest in LLL.   And I don't see
it as a character fault in me or in those others bf mothers.   Different
strokes for different folks, and that's fine.

Wut when those folks think I oughta like their strokes, I think they oughta
get a better attitude toward me if they want me around.

Elisheva Urbas
lay bf counselor not accredited by any organization at all, in NYC
can you tell this pushes my buttons?

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