How would giving Depo prevent men from having  "access" ?

I am an Orthodox Jew ,our family lived on a farm in Lewis county in upstate
New York . Becouse we are Hasidic we looked quite differently from general
population.  I had a few miscarriages and was referred to a teaching
hospital in Syracuse the OB there told me and I quote - You are 30 years old
, you have a boy and a girl , you are poor - I recommend a tubal ligation ,
we can do it today , your husband does not even need to know...
The same Doctor recommended a prophylactic radical mastectomy to me - Just
because you have such a strong history of breast cancer.

Since I was poor and different , since my husband did not speak good English
, has a bushy beard , a funny hat and is obviously religious he must be
pressing me to have more kids , and of course we can not know what is good
for us.
Now seven years later I would report him to the etiks  committee.
Henya Kazatchkov
Brooklyn N.Y.

On 2/28/08, Winnie Mading <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
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> While I in no way condone the practice of giving Depo without a truly
> informed consent, I can see one other factor that hasn't been
> mentioned.  Unfortunately, some men have the attitude that they "need" and
> "have the right to" sexual access to their wives ASAP after delivery and to
> them that means barely a few days, not a few weeks!  This may occur more
> frequently in some cultures that others, but it extends into all cultures
> except those few that have strict taboos against sexual activity for a
> certain number of weeks.  A woman may fear denying his demands for fear he
> will leave her or seek "relief" from someone else.  If she has expressed
> this to the doc, or the doc knows this to be comon in her particular peer
> group, he or she may feel Depo is appropriate and may sense that the mom
> doesn't want it discussed with the father present. Now this is probablly a
> small percentage of those docs who routinely give it before mom goes hjome,
> but it may be the case in some situations.
>
> Winnie
>
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