That this is perfectly normal behaviour and are there ways to help with 
her exhaustion?  Can others take more load in housework and general care 
around the house?  Is he at home, in which case can she naps when the 
baby naps during the day?  If she's working outside the home, can she 
and baby have a lovely long feed, resting in bed, with her feet up, 
whilst someone else cooks dinner?

The issue is the Mum's exhaustion, not the baby's night waking.  Would 
she consider mover the crib into the bedroom, or co-sleeping?  I'd be 
exhausted too if I had to wake fully, schlep down the hall, settle a now 
crying and awake baby, and then go back to settling to sleep myself!

She might like to know that this is normal behaviour, and most other 
mothers who say baby 'sleeps all night' are just plain telling fibs - 
and that's been researched (although I've never found the link.)

You could highlight the positives, that the night milk is fattier for 
her little one, and she benefits from the boost to her supply from night 
time feeding.  Would she benefit from seeing research that states both 
how normal this is, and how there is no evidence at all that bed-sharing 
increases night waking?

http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html

http://www.llli.org/ba/Feb93.html

http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles/C.pdf

http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/sleep.html

Morgan Gallagher

Cindy Simone wrote:
> Would greatly appreciate some advice for mom of a 9 month old who is still
> waking up 3 times each night.
> Baby breastfeeds 4-5x/day and gets solids 3x/day.  Baby is sleeping in a
> crib in her own room.  Mom tries
> not to feed baby each time she wakes.  Breastfeeds 1+ x/night.  Baby is in
> 90th% for weight, height, head size.
> Mom is exhausted and despairing !!
>   

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