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Cassaundra Jah <[log in to unmask]>
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Mon, 13 Nov 2006 15:08:11 -0500
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Hello, I am new to this group but thought I would respond to this email chain 
since I have personal experience with this topic.  I am a lactation educator 
working toward IBCLC certification.  I myself struggled with these negative 
feelings with both of my children.  Of all the women I have spoken with that 
have experienced these feelings they have all stemmed from sexual 
abuse/trauma of some kind (and varying degrees).  This can be obvious  to 
everyone but the BF mom.  I BF my son for 16 months and I am still BF my 
daughter at 17 months.  For me basically any sexual stimulation of the nipples 
began an escalation of feelings from negative to uncomfortable to feeling like I 
needed to vomit.  When I was pregnant with my son I was terrified that when 
I BF him these feelings would be stronger, but my experience was that BF lead 
my mind away from the thoughts that lead to the feelings (some not 
recognized) and the physical stimulation of nursing is unique to breast feeding 
in many ways.  I was able to nurse without the negative feelings, although I 
do notice that I cannot BF for comfort.  I notice the suck changes not only in 
rhythm but physical feeling at the end of a feeding and this is EXTREMELY 
uncomfortable to me and will bring that feeling of unease.  I haven’t found this 
to be a problem for my children, I just BF on demand and I let them suck until 
the nutritive suck was done then continue for as long as I can handle it.  If 
they need more suck time I used my pinky in the begining.  As an aside I 
found that all the positive emotions toward my baby while experiencing the 
stimulation from BF has lead to slight sexual stimulation not bringing the 
negative feelings immediately.  Hope this helps and wasn’t too personal.

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