Good afternoon. Please don't fret, as I would not close down Lactnet
unless I could not figure out another way, along with my very wonderful
admin volunteers, to work things through.
I am frustrated and tired of the tonality... And I will entertain all
solutions until the right one comes to mind. Things do have to change
here, though, as we are no longer accomplishing what I had set out to
do.
Lactnet does remain a good source of information, especially for far
flung peole, isolated people, etc. However, when the troubles of a few
become the thorn in the side of many, then something has to change.
That's all. I, more than anyone, would hate to see Lactnet go away. That
would only be an end option...if I could not find any other path to
travel.
Please let's focus our energies now on breastfeeding, on answering each
other's questions re: case studies, etc,. Back to the usual program. We
will let you know what the deal is when we have had time to contemplate.
Kathleen
Kathleen Bruce RN IBCLC
Independent consultant: Breastfeeding Clinic of Vermont, Lactation
Resources of Vermont, Medela, Inc. Listowner Lactnet listserv
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-----Original Message-----
From: Lactation Information and Discussion
[mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of Dee Kassing BS MLS
IBCLC
Sent: Saturday, November 01, 2003 2:40 PM
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Subject: close the list? gasp!
Dear Colleagues on Lactnet,
I can understand Kathleen's and the other listmother's
frustrations with the accusatory nature of some of the posts these past
few months. We are all adults and the listmothers shouldn't have to
spend time corralling us and reminding us to behave ourselves.
That said, I would beg you all to remember what is in our
welcoming letter. Give each other the benefit of the doubt. We are all
human and all make mistakes. Perhaps one of us at some time gets
passionate and says something we shouldn't, and doesn't realize until
after we've hit the send button that we've screwed up. While I
completely realize how tempting it is for the person who feels she's
been attacked in public to want to protest in public, it really would be
better to contact the original sender in private about these concerns.
After all, maybe the sender said something she shouldn't have, in which
case a private correspondence might prompt the sender to also send a
public apology. And then it can be finished. But *maybe* the original
poster did not even mean anything nasty. As has often been said, we
have only words here--no tone of voice, no body language to help clarify
what is meant. And haven't we all had moments of searching for the
right word or phrase in our mind, and can't seem to come up with it, and
the one we choose instead we later realize doesn't really convey what we
had hoped it would?
It would be a terrible loss to breastfeeding advocates everywhere
if the listmothers feel the need to shut down Lactnet. We share so much
good, useful information here. Please, if you felt really passionate as
you were typing a message, please hit the "send later" button instead of
the "send" button. Go do something else for a few hours or a day, and
then come back and re-read what you typed before you send it. If what
you wrote could be hurtful, even if you think it is a perfectly
justified response to another message, please re-word it or send it
privately or don't send it. The listmothers are
"mothers"--"tenders"--to the *list*. They should not have to act like
*our* mothers, nor should we need it. Please, everyone, think about how
you communicate within your family and your workplace and try to treat
the members of this list with the same respect.
I have only been here a few months, but I don't want to lose
Lactnet!
Dee
Dee Kassing, BS, MLS, IBCLC
Collinsville, Illinois, in central USA
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