> Daddy's job (insert other relatives here also) is to teach baby that LOVE
>doesn't have to go hand in hand with food.

A co-Leader just read a book (I forget the title) that includes a slightly
different take on the monkeys with a choice between wire mesh "mothers"
with a bottle and cuddly cloth "mothers" without.  The monkeys preferred
the cuddly mothers.

The author concludes that since bonding appears to be a function of
cuddling, not of food, dads who really want to build a relationship with
their babies will do better to focus on snuggling with them, not on feeding
them.

Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC, LLLL  Ithaca, NY