kathy:

 yes, i know that not all mother even try or care ... that was not the
senario that jay was discussung when i replied to her.....

  there are also mother who do harmful spiteful awful things to their
children.. and fathers too BUT....

  if i recall acurately jay was discussing her mother and relatives and some
of the issues that arise, with all generations, over differences in parenting
and information base.

                 Patricia