Lynn said: Being tethered to an infant is a *good* thing, and I despise it when cultures that tell us that mothering at the breast is not important or worth supporting.
 
YES - and in fact, mothers are being made to feel they are doing something WRONG if they WANT to be with their babies.  A mom I just saw today finally told her husband: "PLEASE leave him HERE near me!  I know you want to help, but when he is out of sight, I'm not able to rest!"

What a shame mothers are not allowed their own instincts!  I wonder if some of the increase in depression that seems to be happening  is related to maternal loneliness when babies are removed "so the mom can rest" by well-meaning "friends"...

I don't say that mothers SHOULD feel this way - but rather that many DO feel this way and fear criticism, so they "stuff it"...

I just praised her for speaking up and supported her in acting on her feelings...and that probably her baby was feeling the same way!  

Jeanette Panchula, BSW, RN, PHN, IBCLC - and today LLLLeader
Vacaville, CA

  

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