> Kathy writes, "I do think it says a lot about our culture that this woman
> has NO ONE who can watch her children for her should the need
> arise...What if she was in a car accident and had to be in the hospital?
> "
>
> I was actually thinking I should have included this in my previous post.
> I truly believe all children should get used to being with someone else
> (babysitter, grandma, neighbor, etc.).  Even if it is while mom goes to
> grocery store for 20 minutes.  The reason is, what if, g-d forbid,
> something terrible happened to the parents and the children had NEVER
> been comforted by anyone else?  How difficult for the children to suffer
> two traumatic events at once.

But this is the same illogical rationale that some people use to
insist that a baby learn to take a bottle.  What if the baby has
never had a bottle and the mother is killed?  How will the baby eat?
It isn't a logical argument.  First the baby will eat.  Mother's
dying while infants were very young has happened before and babies
tend to be more traumatized by the sudden loss of mother than the
loss of nutrition.

My children have never liked being away from me until they were old
enough to view staying home with Daddy or Grandmother as being fun.
And I never thought that the stress in making them  "get used to it"
was worth the slight possibility that I might die.

Sorry, I just don't agree with this.


Michelle Leifur Reid
LLL Leader
Mobile, AL

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