Friends, 
This is so hard to write.  I have a very good friend who  is 31 weeks pg.  
Her water has broken and she is in the hospital trying to  get baby to stay put 
at least to 32 weeks.  She is pretty  anti-breastfeeding (why I don't 
understand, she has never really said, and I  don't feel comfortable asking her.)  I 
shared with her information on the  true importance of breastmilk with a 
premature baby, being medicine NOT just  food.  I told her about some of the 
complications of prematurity (NEC among  others) and how her milk and hers alone 
could help prevent that.  She wrote  me an email and said that she "knows I am a 
nurse, and a bf advocate, but  NOTHING is going to change her mind about this". 
 She says she has  consulted with many doctors and they are all trying to 
ensure that her baby gets  the absolute best start.  I feel so sad.  If it wasn't 
so close to  home, I wouldn't feel like such a failure.  I sent her 
information from  Paula Meier, thinking that hearing it from a real expert may mean  
something.  Apparently not.  I am praying this baby has no  complications.  Of 
course then she will have "proved me wrong" about breast  milk, what a catch 
22.  At the same time, if there are complications how do  I handle it if she 
comes to me feeling guilty or worse.  This is my first  experience with someone 
so truly anti breastfeeding that they won't even  consider it with their own 
sick baby.  I am hoping that the doctors and  nurses in the NICU are well 
informed and will talk her into it, but who  knows.  Just needed to vent and 
hopefully get an online hug or two for my  failure and inadequacy as a breastfeeding 
advocate.  Guess I really failed  this one.  :(
 
Thanks for listening
 
Renee Drake RN CLC
 
 

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