Having adopted all of my four children through open adoptions, I can speak  
of my experience in this matter.  Once consents are signed, baby is in the  
care of the adoptive family.  How they choose to feed the baby is up to  them.  
 
I was open with our childrens birthmothers about nursing and nursed my  
second son the day he was born, with her blessing.  If people are  uncomfortable 
with talking about it, the best thing to do may be to simply be  quiet until 
babe is home.  But considering the new AAP guidelines on  breastfeeding, it 
sounds like adoptive nursing and relactation are to be  encourged in situations 
such as these!  
 
So being upfront and talking about why breastfeeding is so necessary is a  
good discussion to have.  Even encouraging the birthmother to nurse has so  many 
benefits for the baby, who should be who comes first in these  arrangements.  
It also gives the birthmother the security in knowing she  gave her baby 
something no-one else could and means she can look back with no  regrets.  Many 
birthmothers want to nurse but are too shy to bring it  up.
 
Please feel free to email me to discuss this further if necessary.
 
Kerri Smith
LLL Leader and Doula
Chilliwack,  BC,  Canada 

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