Thank you, Nikki! You (as well Karen KG and others) saw *through* my
perhaps, unthinking use of a term to see what *really* happened.

I never "told" her what to do. Just got a bit frustrated when the
suggestions we came to together and agreed on were not used as she said she
wanted to, and then she got upset that "Nothing has gotten better." She and
I had a heart to heart, about how I really needed to know what she *wanted*
from my help.

She wanted the SNS alone, seems to be doing well with it (in fact did as
well, if not better than almost any first time SNS user I have worked with)
and seems to understand it's uses and limitations. As the baby leaves more
and more supp in the SNS bottle, I feel she will realize he is doing well
on her milk alone, or perhaps with a small amount of expresed milk or even
some ABM, when she panics. She needs that cushion of securty, her first
baby lost "too much" weight while exclusively bf and she is scared.

This second baby is almost 12 lbs at 6 weeks but it still may take her a
while to realize he is really really healthy and OK.

Thank you all again. And thank you who saw and understood the entire
*several hundred word post*, and it's subsequent ones. :)

Mary Jozwiak IBCLC, RLC, LLLL, AAPL
Private Practice



On Tue, 16 Dec 2003 05:46:53 EST, Nikki Lee <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

>In a message dated 12/16/03 12:02:14 AM Eastern Standard Time,
>[log in to unmask] writes:(Mary)
>we agreed on a plan of action, she said
>it would work for her, and then she didn't do much of it, and is still in
>disress, and asking for more help"
>Dear Friends:
>    This statement is different to compliance.  Calling a person
>non-compliant actually means "I told her what to do and she didn't do it."
>    warmly,
>
>Nikki Lee RN, MS, IBCLC, CCE, CIMI

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