Dear Lauren and all

couldn't agree more and that was the point of my second part of
RE:DADS?Flaming

Phillip Sheard, RN and Generalist Community Nurse
Father of Alex, 6 and Elly 3 and partner to an NMAA counsellor


> -----Original Message-----
> From: Lactation Information and Discussion
> [mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of Lauren Michaud
> Sent: Thursday, 22 April 1999 7:59
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Dads and bonding
>
>
> I have enjoyed the comments of others on this subject and thought I'd
> add my 2 cents.
> My husband "fell in love" with his children watching them at the
> breast. He didn't envy me he envied them because of the special
> relationship they had with their mother. Never did he want to take
> that away from his children so that he could "bond" with them.
> I also feel that some mothers INADVERTENTLY make dads feel left out.
> I have many times heard mothers complain that dad doesn't help only
> to listen more about the situation and find that mother takes over
> because dad is "doing it wrong".  One mother was sure that dad made
> the baby cry or at least couldn't stop the crying, so she took over.
> When I asked her if the baby immediately stopped crying when she took
> the baby her reply was "no".  After discussing this a while I
> suggested that she just let dad and baby be. He will bond with his
> child in his own way even if "he doesn't do it right" according to
> mother.
> It's Interesting that we are all for people letting mothers have
> their mothering without intervention but it's all too easy to forget
> that intervention can hinder father/child relationships too.  Let's
> trust our dad's out there and give them a fair chance.
>
> Lauren WIC Peer counselor
>
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