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From: "Christine Lichte" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Wednesday, October 22, 2008 6:37 PM
Subject: [LACTNET] Chilcare facilities and attachment parenting


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I do have a number of mothers that voice their concern to me about how their
baby will do in daycare since they are used to being held all day.  I feel 
for
these mothers and babies.  I am not sure how to help them.  It would be nice
if we had "attachment parenting" daycares!

**Hi Christine,

Richard Bowlby had worrying things to say about this in Vienna at the 
VELB-conference... He explained about the importance to a child of a 
trustworthy primary attachment figure. He said concern is justified, if a 
child spends many, many hours a week in child/day care. It can then be very 
confusing for the infant who the primary attachment figure is, especially 
when the carers in the facility are not constantly the same. A child needs a 
primary attachment figure and preferable a secondary as well and if the 
carers change and the parents are only with the awake child for a few hours 
a day... who should he attach to...? I'm definitely going to get deeper into 
that, when I start reading John Bowlby's trilogy 'Attachment and Loss'. 
Richard said that 'A Secure Base' is worth reading as well; I finished 'The 
Making and Breaking of Affectional Bonds' a while ago and he recommended 'A 
Secure Base' as a follow up.
If people want to indulge me when my private practice gets off to a good 
start... BOOKS, BOOKS, BOOKS, please! :o))

Warmly,

Marianne Vanderveen, Netherlands 

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