the towel at nursing him (which I got a little encouragement for from LLL
members, but no practical help), I really could have benefited from
continued association with LLL, in dealing with this very antisocial,
miserable baby.  However, the time I was at a meeting and Allan had a poopy
diaper and everyone carried on about how stinky it was, even throwing the
bag with his diaper in it outside, I was so offended and felt so much like a
failure, that I quickly left and didn't go near a LLL meeting for four more
years.

Darillyn

**Thank you Darillyn for your honest personal story. As a LLL-leader, I have
had non-BF-mothers on my meetings several times. They gave up on nursing,
for whatever reason. I was honoured they felt comfortable enough to
bottlefeed at a LLL-meeting. I thought it benefitted the whole group and
image of LLL (haaaaaaa, these BF-fanatics, you know), but, on the other
hand, we áre a breastfeeding organisation and nót a parenting organisation.
In my opinion, these mothers needed a sort of 'transition'-period, they
needed to wean themselves from the monthly meetings. And they all did, after
a shorter or longer period.

Lydia de Raad, LLL
Netherlands

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