Re Jeanette's post about limited visiting hours for mom/dad with baby in
NICU -- probably the best strategy is to find out what other NICU units do
and how it works for them.  I know that way back in 1985, when Peter was in
NICU at Riley Children's Hospital in Indianapolis, that parents and
grandparents (but not young siblings--too many germs) were allowed to be
with the baby in NICU whenever they wanted.  You had to scrub and
gown/mask/bootie yourself, but were then allowed to be with your child as
much as possible.  Peter was difficult to hold as he had so many tubes and
monitors attached, but we were allowed to hold him, as were his grandmothers
and even his great-grandmother.  He wasn't allowed food by mouth til after
intestinal surgery, so we didn't do any breastfeeding there, but other moms
were there breastfeeding their babies (each baby had a rocking chair next to
his isolette/crib).  There was a room to pump, that only mothers were
allowed into -- it wasn't very private; rather it was four electric pumps
attached to a small square table, so you sat there facing other women who
were also pumping.  It may sound awfully uncomfortable, but we (the moms)
were all so stressed about our babies that we couldn't have cared less who
saw our breasts, and we all provided a lot of support to each other -- one
baby had a tumor on her liver, another had major heart defects, etc.  There
was a "waiting room" down the hall with comfortable chairs and couches where
parents could stay, even overnight, as well as talk to doctors about their
children's progress and prognosis.  Again, not much privacy, but you were
welcome to be there around the clock, including at night.  I never heard
anyone suggest that parents leave the NICU while procedures were being done
to anyone's baby.
        If you can find hospitals where limitations on visitation on much
more lenient and it seems to work fine, that would probably be your best
argument.  It may make more work for the nurses to have to deal with
hysterical parents who don't understand the procedures being done, but that
just means someone needs to do more parent education.  I *do* remember being
distressed at how casually the NICU nurses responded to alarms from the
monitors on the babies -- turns out the monitors go off a lot when nothing
is wrong.

Kathy Dettwyler