I hate to point this out, but you don't necessarily loose breast play during breastfeeding. It is just different. Just like everything else is different, you could talk about all of that.
I would ask more questions about control, or is it just plain "new-daddy" fears?
Melissa
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From: Lactation Information and Discussion [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of heather
Sent: Wednesday, October 31, 2012 3:40 AM
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Subject: Re: sex and breastfeeding
>I have permission to post. I just saw a woman prenatally whose
>partner is not supportive of breastfeeding because he fears the loss
>of breast play during the breastfeeding period. Does anyone have
>any suggestions for reading material that might be useful? The
>internet would probably not be a good idea unless I knew specific
>sites.
>
>Thanks, Eileen
This is to do with their relationship, and control, and a man being a child and/or a bully, placing his sexual needs above the health needs of his baby and the body chices of his partner.
Perhaps a chance for the mother to reveal wider concerns about the balance of power in her life?
The facts are easy enough: i) for many partnerships breast-focussed sexual activity continues unaffected by breastfeeding, according to individual choice ii) normal health, growth and emotional development are fostered by breastfeeding, and there is a price to pay for curtailing bf or not doing it at all for any reason iii) the integrity of a mother's autonomy over her body is paramount in all sexual relationships
Which facts do this couple have difficulties with?
Heather Welford Neil
NCT bfc, tutor, UK
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