Gina wrote:
>I would add that I think it's possible to be attached without practicing attachment parenting.<

I agree.
I also think that the degree of attachment varies immensely. Some
babies are naturally my *cuddly* than others. Some parents are more
*touchy feely* than others. Both these factors will affect the degree
of attachment.

And having said all that, in my experience the degree of attachment
usually depends mainly on the feelings and actions of the mother. It
is the baby who calls for help but it is the mother who must answer
those calls. There is nothing more frustrating than to hear a baby
fussing or crying and watching the mother ignore those cries. This
happened to me just the other day. When I gently indicated that her
baby was asking to be picked up out of the bucket, the mother checked
her watch and told me her baby could not possibly be hungry since she
had eaten only an hour ago. Yes, that was a VERY long session :(


norma

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