>Date: Sat, 02 Jan 1999 13:15:20 -0600
>From: LWheeler <[log in to unmask]>
>To: [log in to unmask]
>Subject: kids sleeping thru the nite
>
>Hello Dr. Joy,
>I listen to your program on WSMB 1350 AM radio in New Orleans on my
>commute to work in the morning.  I like your advice about not dating
>married (separated) people, the 1 yr rule, etc.
>However, on Dec 30, 1998, I heard your advice to a mother of a 2 yr old
who would not go to sleep easily at 730 pm and screamed upstairs behind
the gate from 730 pm to about midnite. Your advice was to let him
continue to cry it out, even to the point of hyperventilating and
>fainting. I find that inhumane and barbarian! First, I am totally
>opposed to such treatment of children. Their needs do not stop because
we want some peace and quiet or time with our mates starting at 730 pm.
Our children need us day and nite, esp at that tender young age.
Second, some children need less sleep than others. This mom had a 3 yr
old that slept well. All kids are different, their personalities,
metabolism, activity level, interests, etc. What really got me was that
you didn't even ask if the child takes a nap or maybe even 2 naps a day
- maybe he is getting enough sleep all day! You didn't ask if maybe mom
is just getting home at 6pm and wants to put the kids to bed at 730
right after dinner! Surely the child wants to spend some time with mama
and daddy !
>Think about this - children in orphanages will eventually stop crying
>and asking for their needs to be met. They will withdraw and become
>apathetic. This doesn't mean that the treatment was appropriate. The
end doesn't always justify the means.
>Laurie Wheeler, RN, MN, IBCLC
>(my degree is in parent-child health)
>Violet LA 70092
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