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Date: | Thu, 20 Aug 1998 13:07:39 -0500 |
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Gail,
I was one of those moms with a sick babe. He died after only 8
hours of life. The feeling you describe, numbness, is right on. I
think it's got to be nature's defense for the moms in this situation.
I am a LLLL. I breastfed #1 for nearly 2 years. She weaned when I
was 6 months pg with the baby who died (self led). It really never
occured to me to pump or nurse during the time he was alive. He was
*very* sick obviously. He really barely moved, never opened his eyes,
had no rooting reflexes. I didn't even get to see him until he was
about 5 hours old (emergency c/s, eclampsia... not a pretty scene).
I think that nurses and doctors need to remind moms in these situations
of what they may want to do, because I doubt most moms will be with it
enough at that point to think for themselves.
I have to say that the milk that I had was a real source of anguish for
me. I had loads of it, and it was so strange, It was like I was
attached to it, because it was a reminder of my precious baby that I
lost. I didn't want to let go of my last physical reminder of him.
I'm sure it sounds strange but I doubt it's a unique feeling.
You sound like a really caring doctor Gail! Wish I'd have had you during
our crisis.
Regards,
Wendy Funk, epidemiologist, LLLL and most importnat, MOM
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