Dear Anne, I don't think this is an all or none discussion :-) I like your term of gentle scheduling. Certainly a mom of 3 at a time needs to do something to bring some sort of routine to her life or go crazy. I've always believed that babies (and families :-) thrive on some sort of routine. I cue fed my babies, but gently led them as toddlers into regular bedtimes and mealtimes. I think everyone is happier with some structure to life, to know generally what to expect when. We did spur of the moment things too, but not as "daily routine." Being flexible is one of the greatest things I've learned in life. Otherwise you miss a lot of neat opportunities. But structure gives a pattern to life that is also satisfying. Sincerely, Pat in SNJ *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html