I agree with Kathy D about setting rules for toddlers about nursing whether they have a younger sibling competing with them for mommy's milk or not. People who are into nursing on demand with infants often don't realize that the rules can change when they are toddlers. I've had several friends who would nurse their 2-4 year olds anywhere, everywhere and anytime the child wanted. Not that there's anything wrong with that if the mom feels okay about it, too. But at the zoo, in restaurants so mom can't eat her dinner, in church so mom can't stand to sing the hymns, everywhere? When a mom tells me that her 3.5 year old nurses 20-30 times per day and she can never get anything done, I wonder what other limits she will ignore setting with this child, too. Somewhere I read (Penelope Leach, I believe) years ago that older babies and toddlers learning when and where they can nurse and to be able to wait a little bit is part of the socialization process. That was helpful to me because I seemed to be getting the message from my LLLI friends that I shouldn't ever say no to nursing. We expect them to learn to wait to go to the bathroom at some point, but not to wait to nurse? Another author called the current generation of parents the "Okay?" generation. I think sometimes those of us who are into attachment parenting can go too far in this direction and ask our children's permission too often. "Mommy needs to go to the grocery store now, okay?" "Mommy wants to get a drink of water now, okay?" -Lucy Towbin, MSW, IBCLC *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html