Dear Lactneter's- I had a phone call today when I got to work form one of the mom's I've been working with in regards to returning her pump. I called her and made conversation and finally said "oh, why would you like to return the pump"? She told me that she was just going to give formula during the day feeds so the baby would "get used to it"! All my red flags went up... I told her all the usual stuff and then I could hear her crying when she spoke, she was trying to hide it. In fear that I had been to "pushy" I stopped and said what ever choice you make I will help you, but formula is an inferior food and I'm not going to tell you it's o.k.. I then asked if she feels like she does too much work, in carring for her baby that is now two months old and she said yes. She was still hiding her tears somewhat but she said her husband can't care for her high need child, I lent her the Dr. Sears book High Need Fussy Baby... It's a great book anyway. She thought if she stopped nursing or cut back on her breastfeeding that her husband would take a more active role in the babies needs. I said to her you really need to think about what's important here and make a choice, and once you decide I'll help. But I don't think weaning your child will make your husband a better father or the father you wnat him to be and in the process you will loose something really special that only you can provide. The conversation lasted about 45 min. I wanted to empower her as a mother. I gave her the advice I felt deep in my heart as a nursing mother of three, but could her relationship suffer due to the nursing, would an occational bottle make her husband a better father? In this case? I felt so strongly about my nursing and my children that I would have never thought that letting my husband bottle feed would make him a better father... Sad day... Please respond with any words of wisdom that are not the norm, I have given her the usual story... Melinda Wright IBCLC soon to be (I hope) I sit for the exam this July... [log in to unmask] *********************************************** The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html